How do you teach kindness to your children?

How do you teach kindness to your children?

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My son was about 2 years old when I received his first “ouch report” from school. The two ended up with scrapes, ragged and raw, across their faces.

Immediately I wondered if my son was a bully. And if he was, what then?

I’ve taught him the alphabet and colors and to wash his hands before every meal. But is it possible to teach things like kindness and compassion? Can I help cultivate these skills in my child? And how important are these traits anyway?

At the Center for Healthy Minds at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, researchers have been looking at similar questions through a scientific lens.

While there have been multiple other programs to teach mindfulness to children, few are backed by rigorous scientific studies. So the UW-Madison team — graduate research assistant Simon Goldberg; outreach specialist Laura Pinger; and CHM founder Richard Davidson, the UW-Madison William James and Vilas Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry — decided to find out for themselves.

The team developed a special curriculum to help children ages 4 to 6 learn how to be mindful of their own emotions, pay attention to others, and feel gratitude. They called these the ABCs — that is, attention, breath and body, and caring practice. Check out the full results in the journal, Developmental Psychology.

The researchers found that actively cultivating kindness and compassion through mindfulness exercises helped kids focus, engage in more generous behavior among their peers, perform better in school, and self-regulate their emotions.

That includes children like my son — who, it turns out, wasn't a bully at all. He hugged his friend so hard, they both toppled over into some prickly bushes, which scratched their faces. So we could use some assistance in the self-regulation of emotions department, while working to maintain his sense of empathy and love toward others.

You can get your own free copy of the Kindness Curriculum here.

Here are some mindfulness tips from the Center for Healthy Minds:

Create a quiet space

Life is often noisy and chaotic. Balance that with dedicated time and space for quiet. Find a spot in a bedroom, a chair in the house or a bench in a local park where you and your children can pause for a few moments and become familiar with quiet. Notice what happens in your body as you spend time in silence.

Pay attention with purpose

Instead of telling children to "pay attention" without explaining what we mean, teach them to practice mindfulness instead. "With mindfulness, we bring our attention to whatever is happening in the present moment in the environment around us (like sounds or sights), and in our internal experience (like sensations or emotions)," according to the Center for Healthy Minds.

Pause and notice the breath

Have your child lie on their back and notice the movement of the chest or belly as the breath moves in and out of the body. (I like to put a favorite stuffed animal on my son’s belly and see if he can make the monkey rise and fall.)

Offer caring wishes

Caring wishes consist of simple phrases like, "May we be happy, may we be safe, may we be filled with love." These wishes can help calm emotions and strengthen a sense of connection to family, the community and the world.

Practice gratitude

You don’t have to go full Oprah here, but being mindful about what you are grateful for has been proven to support an overall sense of well-being. It’s easy to do: Take a few minutes at the end of each day to reflect on the good things that happened.

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