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By necessity, breastfeeding mothers learn to be superstar multi-taskers. We nurse our babies while chasing around older children, making lunch, walking around the grocery store and heck, sometimes while sitting on the toilet if necessary.
But one mom has received a fair amount of backlash for admitting to having sex while breastfeeding.
In a video posted on YouTube two years ago, Vlogger Tasha Maile confessed to doing the deed while her baby was asleep – but still latched onto her breast. Her video attracted harsh criticism, with some calling the act creepy, inappropriate, and worse. However, Maile defended her actions in a recent interview with This Morning.
“The baby was sleeping while breastfeeding, he was very attached to me," the SanDiego mom said. "If your baby is sleeping – again being an adult about the conversation, we all like sex, there’s no secret about it – I think it's totally fine if the baby is sleeping."
If you're weirded out by the thought of your baby being in the same room while you're having sex, Maile does make a valid point. "If the baby is okay, the baby’s okay," she said. "They’re not sitting there judging you and thinking, ‘My mom and dad are having sex.’ It’s a 2- or 3-month-old baby. They’re so innocent."
I mean, she's right; infants would have no concept or memory of their parents having sex.
It's not like this mom is the first person in history to have sex in the same room as her child. (Didn't humans all sleep together in the same cave/room for a long time, way back in the day?) The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP,) actually recommends infants sleep in the same bedroom as their parents until 6 months of age and, ideally, until age 1. So having sexy time while the baby is right there probably isn't as rare as you'd might think. Most parents just probably wouldn't confess it on YouTube.
Here's the real question: Is having sex with your infant attached to the breast really the same thing as quietly DTD with your sleeping baby in the same room? Or does it cross a line and manage to sexualize breastfeeding, despite the efforts of activists and allies to de-sexualize the act?
I know I wouldn't be comfortable engaging in anything sexual while my baby was asleep on the breast. Would I label it "incestuous" if other parents did? No. Ultimately, I think it's up to couples to decide what their comfort levels are while navigating the logistics of sex and new parenthood.
Screenshot via YouTube/This Morning; Image by Thinkstock
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